OUR INSTINCTS
Hunting
Our Hunting Instinct is satisfied when:
We master a technology.
We improve the efficiency
of an activity or process.
We find a bargain.
When our needs are not met:
We will use strategy and rationalization.
Never get into a discussion or
argument with a Hunter. You will lose.
Given unlimited resources:
We might become so educated
that we would have difficulty
communicating with other people.
But our awareness can benefit
all human beings: Marie Curie, and Louis Pasteur.
A Brief Overview
Our Hunting Instinct makes us focus on details, research, efficiency, numbers, facts, and proof.
Those of us who act primarily out of Hunting Instinct seek the most efficient way to get something done.
We calculate and plan. We act out of logic and reason.
We take great pride in our abilities. We are motivated by need and supply,
rather than loyalty, anger, or how we may look to others.
Our Hunting Instinct makes us see the bigger picture, and gives us objective introspection.
As Providers
It makes us dedicated and efficient.
We will always bring home the bacon.
As Partners
It makes us attentive and resourceful problem solvers.
We are constantly motivated to improve our relationships.
As Friends
We are loyal and low maintenance. We gladly do
the work to maintain friendships,
and encourage personal growth in others.
In Bed
It makes us great students.
It makes us learn well and take pride
in perfecting techniques.
Gathering
Our Gathering Instinct is satisfied when:
We aren't hungry.
We have a full refrigerator.
We don't feel like we need anything.
This instinct focuses us on feeling physically happy.
A full stomach, a good orgasm, and a good night's sleep
are all interchangeable and equally satisfying.
When our needs are not met:
We will whine and complain.
We complain louder and more often
than any other instinct.
And our biggest complaint is:
that no one is meeting our needs.
Given unlimited resources:
We will stuff ourselves
until we are too large to move.
And our houses will be
so full of stuff that
there are pathways from
room to room.
A Brief Overview
Our Gathering Instinct makes us gather and consume.
From having a full stomach, to a house crammed full of stuff,
we live with a constant level of fear about running out of things.
Even though we now have mass production and distribution,
our Gathering Instinct is still not satisfied.
In most western civilized countries, food is everywhere,
and other people manufacture our clothes and furniture for us.
All we have to do is pay for it and take it home! Life is great!
But our knee-jerk primitive Gathering Instinct still inspires us to stock up and hoard.
We are so focused on our immediate needs , that we rarely have a thought or care for the future.
This keeps us maxed out on our credit cards, and in a constant state of anxiety.
Our Gathering Instinct blocks us from seeing the bigger picture.
As Providers
It makes us panic about running out
so we tend to overstock.
As Partners
It makes us dedicated to the one
who makes us feel good, and motivates us
to do whatever it takes to keep the relationship.
As Friends
It makes us a little self centered.
We tend to put our own needs first
In Bed
Probably the most reliable good time in the sack.
We are inspired to find positions that make us feel good,
the same way we stick to food that makes us feel good.
We like the least amount of effort for the most
amount of pleasure. And we want to feel good all the time.
We may not be the most inventive or nurturing lovers
but we know how to satisfy our needs.
Worker
Our Worker Instinct is satisfied when:
We feel appreciated, or at least noticed.
When we can pay all the bills
and still have a little left over.
When our needs are not met:
It may make us grumble,
but we will usually just shrug it off.
That's the way the cookie crumbles.
Given unlimited resources:
We would probably not know what to do with ourselves.
We may go fishing, play with our kids,
plant flowers in our gardens, or lie on the sofa
and sleep all afternoon.
We are not driven to be successful.
Our version of success is
for our children to be able
to go to college.
A Brief Overview
Those of us who act primarily out of Worker Instinct make up the largest
demographic group of human beings. We get up every day and go to work,
whether it's standing at an assembly line or
sitting in a carpeted cubicle under fluorescent lights.
We Workers can be either the
happiest or the saddest of people.
The deciding factor is if we feel appreciated.
We desire security and predictability. If you can provide this to us, we will
work faithfully for you until we drop. As long as our paychecks don't
bounce and we can afford to buy a few luxuries now and then, we will
continue to show up every day and do our job. We are reliable,
dedicated and committed. We take great personal pride in what we do.
We rarely complain, but we will commiserate with each other over a cold beer at the end of the day.
As Providers
It makes us get up every day and go to work at some crappy job just to provide for our family. We may grumble a little, but we are dependable.
As Partners
It makes us dedicated, loyal, faithful. We take no risks. We are predictable and safe.
As Friends
Truly best friends for life. We will never leave you, and see you through thick and thin. We may not know what to say or do, but there's always a couch for you to sleep on at our house if you need it, and a plate of food on the table. We will actually give you the shirt off our back.
In Bed
It makes us boring and predictable.
Since Worker Instinct doesn't like change,
it makes us uncreative and dull.
If a position is working for us, why change it?
Warrior
Our Warrior Instinct is satisfied when:
We can extract a brief feeling
of one-upmanship out of a situation.
When we feel we have control over
people or situations.
When we have been proven to be right.
When we win.
When our needs are not met:
We will use use force or threat of force.
We will terrorize those around us
and blame others.
We will break things and harm people.
Given unlimited resources:
We could destroy our species.
A Brief Overview
Our Warrior Instinct makes us see the world in terms of wrong or right,
black or white, and good or evil. Other people are either
friend or foe, with us or against us, and there is no middle ground.
Our Warrior Instinct is concerned with safety and security.
It makes us territorial. It motivates us to protect the things
we feel are our possessions. This can include other people, as
well as objects and natural resources. It is the origin of our
feelings of loyalty, dedication, and personal boundaries.
It can come out when we feel cheated, used, compromised, ignored, or
abused. It is the Instinct which motivates us to fight for survival.
Those of us who act primarily out of Warrior Instinct will tell
you we are concerned about your security. But, concerns for your
security are actually motivated out of our own feelings of
insecurity. We see enemies where they don't exist.
Our Instinct makes us believe that there always is an enemy,
so if one is not obvious then we will create one. Often, out of
the very people we are supposed to be protecting.
This behavior causes the majority of the problems that we face as a species.
But, you cannot make us aware of our own behavior.
Our Warrior Instinct blocks us from being introspective, and seeing the bigger picture.
As Providers
We can amass large amounts of wealth, but we use other people's labor to create it. We tend to see money as all we need to give our families. We don't understand emotional support, encouragement or empathy.
As Partners
It makes us think in terms of black or white only. We are rigid, stubborn and convinced we are always right. Our Warrior Instinct makes us loyal and dedicated We will risk our own lives for what we believe. It also makes us uncomfortable with our feelings, and awkward with intimacy.
As Friends
We usually only bond with others who also act out of Warrior Instinct. Our friendships are based on believing that we are better than other people. Our long lasting friendships are with people that we can compete with, like playing sports.
In Bed
It makes us use force to get others to please us.
It is the origin of rape.
It makes us not care about the needs of others.
Inventor
Our Inventor Instinct is satisfied when:
We invent a new technology.
We make something work better.
We think of something
that hasn't been thought of before.
When our needs are not met:
We will use reason and logic.
We will find ways, create ways
that may have not existed before.
We are self-sufficient
and need little or no input
from others.
Given unlimited resources:
We will be paralyzed with indecision
over what to do.
We work best with limited
resources.
A Brief Overview
Our Inventor Instinct makes us see the bigger picture. We remember what happened in the past and contemplate what the future might be. We invent governments and create infrastructure. We make decisions based on observation, facts, and proof. This instinctual tendency towards objective observation is a trait we share with Hunters. But, where our Hunting Instinct motivates us to find the most efficient way to use current technology, our Inventor Instinct makes us invent a new technology. We Inventors are the visionaries of the group. We often pursue creative lines of work like art, music, writing, design, dance, or architecture. Inventors are the architects of civilized society. Our Inventor Instinct is the reason why we stopped wandering around looking for food and shelter, and started building villages and raising crops.
As Providers
It makes us inconsistent and unreliable. We live from feast to famine.
As Partners
It can make us moody: full of life one minute, and then miserable and depressed the next. A real roller coaster ride.
As Friends
We are loyal and reliable as long as we aren't depressed. But, we tend to spend so much time looking at the bigger picture that we often miss the people who are right in front of us. Not intentionally. It's just a down side to our instinct.
In Bed
It makes us adventuresome and inventive (Of course!).
Never dull, always up for trying something new.
We are all about the experience.
Nurturing
Our Nurturing Instinct is satisfied when:
We feel useful to those around us,
our children are healthy and happy.
We advise someone about
their health or happiness.
When our needs are not met:
We use emotional manipulation
through shame, guilt, and fear.
Given unlimited resources:
We will try to keep every human being on the planet
healthy and alive for as long as possible.
A Brief Overview
Our Nurturing Instinct drives us to keep everyone healthy
and alive for as long as possible. It makes us instinctively put the
needs of other people, especially children, before our own needs.
We are constsntly making judgements between good and bad. We judge other people's behavior, situations and choices.
We bond with others who also act primarily out of Nurturing Instinct, by agreeing with their judgements.
We are the cult of the "Half-Full Glass".
We will avoid anything negative at all costs, even if it means
we have to pretend to be happy when we aren't.
We avoid conflict whenever possible.
Our Nurturing Instinct makes us believe in myths over facts.
It is a Survival Instinct trait we share with Warriors and Gatherers.
This Instinct is the origin of faith.
Our Nurturing Instinct blocks us from seeing the bigger picture.
Instead we believe that our perception IS the bigger picture.
It also blocks us from being introspective.
This causes constant problems for us in our relationships.
If you point out our behavior we will defend our motivation.
We are unable to separate the two.
As Providers
It makes us bend over backwards to provide for others. Unfortunately, it also creates self doubt that we are not doing enough. We can get overwhelmed by the simplest of things.
As Partners
We often kill the intimacy level between ourselves and our partners due to our use of shame, guilt and fear. We have no awareness that we are doing it, and will blame our partners for the loss of intimacy, making them not want to be around us.
As Friends
It makes us bond quickly and forever with others who also act out of Nurturing Instinct. It makes us want to be friends with everyone, but often we lose friends because of our constant judging.
In Bed
It makes us put other people's needs
ahead of our own. It makes us try hard to please,
and creates attentive and caring partners.
We are usually willing to do whatever the other one wants,
in order to make them happy.
Attraction
Our Attraction Instinct is satisfied when: We feel attractive and desired.
When our needs are not met: We will flirt to get attention, or sulk.
Given unlimited resources: We will try to look 20 years old forever.
A Brief Overview
Our Attraction Instinct drives us to be concerned with our physical appearance.
Our idea of what is attractive seems to change constantly.
Yet, the Instinct to be attractive stays the same.
Those of us who act primarily out of Attraction Instinct think everyone else
is judging us on how we look. This can either make us happy, nervous, or annoyed.
It all depends on whether or not we are comfortable with the attention.
Attraction Instinct is powerful and relentless.
The motivation to look attractive, and keep looking attractive,
can make us miserable, and miserable to be with.
We are sometimes called "High Maintenance."
We often require constant reassurance that we are attractive and desired.
It is a double bind. We may not be able to rationally explain why
we are driven to stay attractive, and we may be uncomfortable with
the attention that it brings us. Since there is no way to stop or
reverse the aging process, it is a losing battle.
Yet millions of us put faith, time, energy, and money into
trying to be as attractive as we can for as long as we can.
Our Attraction Instinct blocks us from seeing the bigger picture.
As Providers
It makes us unable to keep jobs. We are way too self focused to be able to provide a service to others. It makes us lousy employees, and so we are often borrowing money.
As Partners
It makes us always look good. But, it also makes us attract unwanted attention from others, which often causes problems with our partners.
As Friends
We bond with other people who don't think beyond the surface. Our friendships are tricky, as we usually see people of the opposite sex as targets, and people of our own sex as competition.
In Bed
Probably the most boring partner to have sex with.
Our Attraction Instinct makes us distracted
by wondering if our partner thinks we are unattractive.
We are too self-absorbed to care about
anyone else's needs. Or even enjoy the moment.
Mating
Our Mating Instinct is satisfied when:
We have sex, or more specifically,
when we have an orgasm.
Either alone or with a partner.
When our needs are not met:
We become agitated and tense
We may use trickery and coercion to get someone to have sex with us.
We may engage in risky unprotected sex with questionable partners.
But unlike Warrior Instinct, we do not force.
We will simply go home and masturbate.
Our Warrior Instinct motivates rape,
our Mating Instinct motivates
sexual addiction.
Given unlimited resources:
We will have sex until we can't move.
We may actually die from having sex.
A Brief Overview
Our Mating Instinct is all about having sex. It's the hook-up, doing the dirty, makin bacon, slammin ham, and bumpin uglies. And, it's the reason why there are 7 billion of us hanging around the planet. Those of us who act primarily out of Mating Instinct are fairly easy to spot. We usually look apprehensive, nervous and anxious. Our eyes dart about the room. Our heads turn whenever someone enters or leaves the room. We are constantly on the lookout for a sex partner. Those of us who act out of Mating Instinct desire frequent sex, preferably with a continuous supply of new and attractive partners. Our Primitive human ancestors had an average life span of 20-25 years. The infant mortality rate was high, and few people survived to adulthood. The instinctual motivation to have sex any time, anywhere, and with any one, is one of the main reasons why the human race has survived.
As Providers
It makes us way too self focused to care about the needs of others. We are poor providers, lacking motivation and feel no loyalty.
As Partners
Typically not good partners, because we are usually sniffing out our next interesting sexual experience. It makes us the most unfaithful of all eight.
As Friends
It makes us lone wolves. We occasionally hang out with others who also act out of this instinct, but only if we think it will get us laid.
In Bed
You would think we would be the best lovers,
after all, we do it more than anyone else.
But actually, our Instinct makes us narrowly focused
on our own orgasm. Our partners are little more
than animated vibrators, or breathing love dolls.
